About boundaries –this site may be of some help:
The website below shows how abuse takes place and the different forms it may take:
Forms of Verbal Abuse
Personal boundaries are set by us as we define what is acceptable or not acceptable to us. They are important in protecting ourselves emotionally,mentally and physically. Abusers ignore our boundaries and try to redefine what is acceptable / not acceptable so that they can take advantage of us. The link below goes into some detail:
The two links below provide a list of boundary violations to measure the current relationship against. They can help a victim gain clarity so that they can move on to the next unavoidable step – out the door.