Much has been written about how addiction to drugs, alcohol or other substances tend to contribute to the problem of abuse in relationships. But what about addiction to people? Can you be addicted to someone or to a relationship? You can, and this is known as “addiction to love” - though relationships based on such […]
Monthly Archive for January, 2009
Verbal Abuse - by Steven Stosny at Psychology Today
Posted in Anecdotes-n-Quotes, NewNewz, Resources on Jan 26th, 2009
from his blog: Anger in the Age of Entitlement
Some words have fangs. Among the sharpest are those classified as negative labeling. Negative labels come in the form of adjectives: “You’re lazy, selfish, unreasonable, insensitive, etc.,” and also in nouns: “You’re a loser, slut, bitch, bad boy, etc.”
Sometimes tone of voice grows fangs on otherwise benign […]
Are you a ‘people-pleaser’? If so, you may be a prime target for abusers.
Posted in Anecdotes-n-Quotes, Resources on Jan 18th, 2009
If you’re a ‘people-pleaser’, then you may be unintentionally attracting controlling, abusive people into your life who will always consider their own needs above yours. The problem is if you consistently subvert your own needs in favor of catering to what others want or need instead, then you’ll become an easy target for just that […]
That was one of the last things I told Dan, and the more I read up on what was going on in my relationship with him, the more I realize that — even just barely out of the fog of that relationship — I was right.
Why does it matter now?
Does being right about […]
Narcissists Don’t Make Love (?)
Posted in NewNewz on Jan 9th, 2009
SOURCE: Psychology Today
…
To some degree, we suspect that narcissists view their sexual partners as objects that satisfy their needs for pleasure, status, and power. As you might imagine, this kind of attitude probably doesn’t bode well for long-term relationships. In fact, one thing we suspect, but have not tested, is that more frequent sexual activity […]